So here we are. Another haunted holiday approaches tomorrow. Children in costumes going from door to door in search of the sugar high of the year. Parents laughing and smiling, holding their hands, making sure they remain safe during the process, no matter how tired they are. Other adults donning makeup and wardrobe to celebrate the festive day.
Last night, across the street from me, a Hispanic family threw a Halloween party from early afternoon until about three in the morning. The live DJ was hooting and hollering on the mic as the bass lines from various songs thumped threw the walls here. When I stepped outside to smoke, I could see the silhouette through the vinyl garage doors of bodies bouncing around, while green and red stars and sparkles danced on the material.
It made me realize something. While I love being the black man that I am, I need to party with them. They’re is such a difference in how celebrations are had through the nationalities that I think a lot of my race has simply forgotten “how” to celebrate. What has happening across the street was a kids party. When’s the last time you had a shit load of children dressed up, high on sugar, partying at your house until three am?
The instance of a grand occasion still exists in their community. It’s a primarily grand and wonderful sight to witness. I commend the heritage, the history, and the continuation of something among them that I feel many of us, no matter what race we are, have completed forgotten about: The concept of FAMILY.
I don’t mean the people living in your household. I don’t mean the people that you see at the family reunion. I mean everyone that you accept right into your house for the simple sake of offering them food, candy, music, and leaving your doors open for anyone that feels like they belong. I think we’ve gotten to a point where we’ve forgotten a lot of what made us strong in the first place. Togetherness, forgiveness, laughter, joy, sharing, compassion, and love.
While I’ve always been aware of Dia de los Muertos, I’ve never been on that participated because to me, praying for the souls of those that have passed on didn’t make any sense to me. Why pray for the souls of the dead, when its the souls of the living that need all the help they can get? But I understand it now.
It’s the two days out of the year, that no matter what is going on, shows that whether they are here or not, they are never forgotten, and are wished continual peace during their eternal slumber.
So after tomorrow, when All Saints Day and All Souls Day arrive back to back, I’ll be standing on the porch, a cigarette between my lips, a drink in my hand, eyes closed, praying for the loved ones I lost, the loved one I’m about to lose, and the loved ones that are around me needing all the prayer they can get.
Because I know that I can’t let myself forget about the one that has kept me alive all this time.
Family.
Have a safe and happy Halloween, everyone.
